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Finding it hard to support my boyfreind

A MyFibroTeam Member asked a question 💭
Glasgow, UK

So my boyfreind has just lost his job and is now depressed and im finding it so hard to support him right now! I love him but hes not been the most supportive with my fibro, he gets frustrated when i cant do things and when im tired and sore and tells me to excercise more! Now hes down in the dumps and i am finding it so hard to be there for him! He forgets that with him losing his job the financial responsibility lands on me again and i am panicking! But all he does is mope around all moody and… read more

October 19, 2018
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Members shared deeply honest experiences about the difficulty of supporting partners who don't fully understand or reciprocate care when... Read more

Members shared deeply honest experiences about the difficulty of supporting partners who don't fully understand or reciprocate care when living with fibromyalgia, with many describing feelings of resentment when their own pain is dismissed while their partners expect sympathy during tough times. Several members emphasized that open, non-confrontational communication is essential, suggesting honest conversations about financial stress, household responsibilities, and the need for mutual support without falling into a tit-for-tat dynamic. A recurring theme was the importance of setting boundaries, taking care of oneself first, and recognizing that while love is powerful, partnerships require teamwork, respect, and sometimes tough conversations to break unhealthy patterns.

A MyFibroTeam Member

Good for you angel!

October 22, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

Most definitely communication is key but remember in order to look after and support others we need to look after ourselves first. It's team work in a relationship so explain to him how your feeling and that your concerned about your finances and how your going to manage. Take care lovely xxx

October 20, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

@A MyFibroTeam Member: It definitely won't help matters to address him with a "tit-4-tat" approach, but YOU DEFINITELY must address how you're feeling about having difficulty supporting him--for all the reasons you just shared with us. INCLUDING & ESPECIALLY how you hurt by his lack of support and seeming disregard for your Fibromyalgia.
Fibro already zaps our energy and cramps our lifestyle..the last thing we need is emotional baggage weighing in on the daily fight against this Beast.

October 19, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

Exactly @A MyFibroTeam Member
My ex was like that and I stood up to him and stopped doing things for him and kept telling him No. He didn't like it but meh!! I told him to deal with it. Unfortunately he was raised that Mum did everything for him and I wasn't picking up where Mum left off. Hence why we are not married anymore.
Definitely don't need that extra stress as we definitely need to look after ourselves xx

October 21, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

I agree it should be both ways help eacth other and also I know we love them but they shouldn’t walk all over us because we also have to take care of our selfs

October 21, 2018

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