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Reading, PA

Has anyone else notice that they have a low or no sex drive?
I feel awful for my boyfriend but I'm never in the mood anymore

July 31, 2016
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Members openly shared their struggles with low or absent sex drive while living with fibromyalgia and chronic pain, with many expressing guilt... Read more

Members openly shared their struggles with low or absent sex drive while living with fibromyalgia and chronic pain, with many expressing guilt toward their partners despite their bodies simply not cooperating due to exhaustion, pain, medication side effects, and hormonal changes like menopause. Several members offered compassionate advice, including communicating openly with partners about limitations, showing affection through cuddling and massage, timing intimacy for when energy is higher, and recognizing that certain medications like gabapentin and antidepressants can significantly impact libido. A recurring theme was the importance of self-compassion and finding understanding partners who recognize that chronic illness affects every aspect of life, with many emphasizing that love can be expressed in many ways beyond physical intimacy.

A MyFibroTeam Member

With chronic fatigue and fibro among other chronic pain, it absolutely can affect your sex drive. Not to mention any meds that may interfere. It's hard to feel in the mood when you're tired, hurting, cranky, depressed, etc. Any one of those things can affect it, let alone multiple reasons.

July 31, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

When I was married, I had sex during the day and I was the initiator. The bed was for sleeping. It was the best way to deal with the lack of energy for me,

August 3, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

Being post menopausal and having fibro mine drive is down to 2. My husband has a low sex drive too, so it works for us. Sometimes cuddling is just as sexy and we do alot of that.

July 31, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

Ugh same!!!! It's awful isn't it? My boyfriend has been so understanding but I still feel so guilty. I don't want him to think I am not interested or that I don't care about his needs.

August 4, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

Don't feel bad because some people, family members are husbands boyfriends, they just don't understand sometimes I have been divorced for over 15 year if not more if he really and truly love you honey he would at least try to understand what we go through the and tender to touch, there is other ways a couple can show there love and affection to each other life is just not about sex always see if have no desire what so ever, just sit down with him and explain to him sometimes it helps if you partner reads about it and am sure he will understand what you are going through.

July 31, 2016

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