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October 16
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Members connected deeply over the challenge of explaining fibromyalgia to people who only see them on good days, with many sharing how... Read more

Members connected deeply over the challenge of explaining fibromyalgia to people who only see them on good days, with many sharing how exhausting and hurtful it feels to be dismissed by family and friends. A recurring theme was that members have stopped feeling obligated to explain themselves, with popular responses including 'Google it' and humorous comebacks like 'I promise the inside of my body feels like a Victorian ghost story.' Several members also shared that setting boundaries with unsupportive loved ones, while painful, was key to protecting their health and peace.

A MyFibroTeam Member

Usually if I see people I’m ok for a short amount of time. But if they lived with me for a week they would see what I’m really like.

October 20
A MyFibroTeam Member

Thank you to you both.. it's been a long journey but I know God is with me the whole way directing my path. Blessings to you❣️

October 20
A MyFibroTeam Member

@A MyFibroTeam Member just wanted to say something supportive and grateful to you for sharing your experiences with parents. I'm SO glad you were able to protect yourself and limit contact. Good for you. 🙏

@A MyFibroTeam Member That is such a great question and I think it is one we all can relate to. I think, for me, it depends on what the relationship I have with the person is like. For example: Are we close? Then maybe I could take some time to explain how invisible illnesses work. If it's someone I'm not close with, maybe I'd just shrug and say something like, yes, you see me on my good days not the three days I need to prepare for it and the three days or more I need to recover.

And also what the motivation might be for the question, what the context is. Are they sincerely curious or are they hoping I can help them move haha!

October 19
A MyFibroTeam Member

That's one thing I don't worry about what people think when I'm out. Let them think what they like. It's their mind working overtime. Family are the challenge or were the challenge when younger. I know longer have that challenge now. If anyone doesn't like anything about an illness and can't be bothered jog on. 😂 I've got the people I love and care about that's all that matters.
🌼🍂💖

October 17
A MyFibroTeam Member

I smile and say” Thanks, I’m sure glad I don’t look like I feel!” Then change the subject.

October 16

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