I mean... do you schedule it and take lots of pain killers or what... it seems to be disappearing in my marriage and I don't know if I care... (so exhausted and in pain)...
The constant nagging and feeling guilty because it feels like a chore instead of a fun experience. Yes, position matters! Also, I had to explain to my husband that a quickie for him is all I can do sometimes. It can’t always be a long intimate affair.
Also.... there is never really a tmi question....you will never know the answer if you don't ask the question...
It's really helped me to be open with my husband about how certain positions hurt me or exhaust me. Do what works for you and your partner and listen to your body. Also maybe try some devices that do the work for you. Sorry if this was TMI too
I too experience so much pain and fatigue that intimacy is next to impossible...fortunately I have a wonderful and understanding husband. He was a builder for over 30+ years and has a bad neck and back so he totally understands the pain that I am experiencing. We take turns boosting each other’s morales. Living like this can be very depressing and it is so hard to stay positive. Just have to take life one day (sometimes one moment) at a time.
I have to say no A LOT! My husband is not always happy with me, but it is too hard to get in the mood when you hurt so bad! He is finally starting to understand just how much pain I am in and seems to be supportive, for the most part. Sorry, I can't help you more...