Does your brain fog and memory loss get worse under stress or is it consistent?
Stress is a killer, and I totally agree that everything fibromyalgia-wise gets worse with stress. It's taking me time, but I'm learning also to let go. I've had to let go of my unhealthy relationship with my adult son due to the stress of his constant criticism, and disrespect. The stressful part was trying to save it or hope that he would eventually change, but now that I'm at peace with it, it's taken a huge load off and I'm much better emotionally. It also helped me that by sharing my own awful experiences about him with others, I found that there are many women who have had to let go of expecting to have a relationship we all dreamed of or expected with their adult children, which helped me feel less ashamed, as if I didn't meet his needs raising him, which I knew wasn't true in my head, but had to learn to feel and accept it in my heart. Oh, and after divorcing my emotionally vacant husband of 33 yrs, I am dealing with just myself much better, although I do have to admit that taking care of myself is about all I can handle.
Try to keep a since of humor about life and things or things in nature will drive us crazy just on a natural level, now we are dealing with chronic pain all the time and are immune systems that ate lowering, we must find things purposely to make us laugh to make us healthy and feel better. I know its hard. And life ain't so funny, that's why its not so easy, but find a comedian you like once a week and vegg out on the couch and see how you start feeling. Find positive books that make you laugh. Take your multivitamin and go for a walk daily, take an hour and do what you want everyday for one hour. Journal. Don't let stress build up. Write it down it you can or tape it. If you worry about people reading it, write it, then ripe it up and throw it away, that what I used to to because of one of my ex's finding my journal. I help others better then I do myself, I've always been able to. Its very sound advice from living it and schooling. I have a BA in clinical psychology and an AA in social work.
Maryclaire, I have both a doctor and therapist as well as a neurologist who all tell me that it's just because of fibromyalgia as it is a side effect. When I am tired, stressed, hurting etc. I have problems with remembering names of certain things, what I am trying to say or how I want to say it, I use the wrong words, send text messages that make no sense at all, etc. Before I knew what was going on with me and I was still working I often wondered if I had had a stroke because of the issues I was having. I'd stutter and stammer over words trying to communicate with management and it just made me even more frustrated so I would try to stay calm, take a deep breath (or three) and start over again. I still have these issues and you are very much not alone. I play games on my phone such as word search, crossword puzzles and things to challenge my mind. It seems to help keep me calm or at least distract me from things that would otherwise stress me out. Granted that it does not always work and there are places where I am not able to use my phone as a distraction so I have to work on just breathing and clearing my mind.
brain fog is my worse thing. it is very frustrating. I am not a silly woman and used to be able to multitask easily and these days I am lucky if I remember one task let alone a few at once. I can get overwhelmed when shopping, too, my brain just cannot process all the hustle and bustle. sometimes it's scary and like others, I wonder if really I am getting some kind if dementia. The up side, I guess, (always looking for a positive) is that I am learning how to just be in a moment, even a confused one, and appreciating it for what it is. There is always something good to focus on in those moments. a bird singing, a child smiling, being thankful I remembered how to even get to the shops! Now where was I?
After failing to get disability, I had ajust! My stressull nursing job was out of the question.. fibro fog caused so much stress!! I’m working part time min wage.. it takes me three hours to get ready for work, what with pain control and plain slow functioning! Once at work, I put pain at the back of my mind ! But get very exhausted juggling both, work n pain.. does anyone relate to this? No social life as my energy is spent preparing to stay vertical for work 😳 no health insurance! The danger is overlooking a real health problem, thinking it is all fibro!