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I am 44 and single. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. At the same time I don't know if it is fair to even try to date. I don't want to be a burden to anyone. I also know it is up the other person to decide what is right for them. I was told by one x husband I was boring and lazy. I know this is not the case. I was also told by my other x that I was too much to deal with. I have a very low self esteem, and dont see myself as being able to offer anything to a relationship. I… read more

posted October 27, 2017
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A MyFibroTeam Member

LaDanna, Sometimes in the middle of an ordinary life a fairytale comes along <3 That is what happened for me and I believe it happens for all of us when we aren't looking :D Just keep focusing on you right now and getting rid of that negative self talk xox

posted October 27, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

Love you first then the rest will follow.

posted October 27, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

Don't sell yourself short! EVERYONE has issues and it's how you handle them that counts! I know EXACTLY how you feel! My sypmtoms began when I was 43 and I'm now 49. I decided to chat with guys on a dating site while I suffered from insomnia; I figured talking to someone from different time zone would be helpful and safe (because I would never have to meet them! ). This past summer, when I was in only the usual amount of pain, I decided to meet someone. He is quite a few years my senior, so we share many aches and pains! My point is, build up your self esteem and when the time is right, you'll know! Good luck! ;)

posted October 27, 2017
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Regardless of illness, I'd work on the self esteem. I'd also put myself first... Believe me, Mr. Right will find you. I was 45 when he swept me off my feet. I wasn't looking.
You have to get your ex's out of your head!
Let go of all the bad crap. You have to be able to love your self and I think everything will fall into place.

posted October 27, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

There are a very few special people that may not sympathize but empathize with you; treat you with kindness and compassion; but, they are a needle in a haystack. It's hard I know because I was just reading where this disease causes you to be lonely and I think that's very true. It pushes you in a dark corner because you feel no one understands you. People on here get it. As I read the comments I could be reading my own story on a lot of these people. BUT, people who don't have this wonderful disease have a very, VERY hard time understanding. I've known two people on blogs whom have separated because of the lack of understanding. It has been the hardest thing in my marriage so far. I've come 98% to separation because of the not understanding thing. If I could choose to do it over I would not get married but that comes from my experience. You can still enjoy others company and not be married. This disease demands so much of your life it drags down the other person and they don't like that. Even though it's invisible it's still as real as cancer. But in relationships, they don't see it that way. You don't "look" sick. Some days I can work in the yard so they look at that and say, "You must be well". The next four days I'm in the bed. They don't understand that.

Anyway, I don't want to discourage you from dating because you may find the needle and that would be WONDERFUL. But I'm telling you from experience, if they have ANY issue with your sickness get rid of them immediately! It is only trouble. 24/7 trouble and we don't need that.

I hope I didn't ramble too much :)

posted October 27, 2017

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