I say thank you for being there and understanding. If I need anything, I will be sure and ask. If I need an ice pack or heating pad or meds my fiance is more than willing to get them for me. I think it helps him to help me in any little way he can. Even if its just letting me be to get thru the pain. Its hard for him to see me go thru what I do and not being able to help. But he has also educated himself on my illness and is my rock when I am in my worst pain. I love him dearly.

I always say that him being there is helping enough as there isn't really anything he can do. He brings me cups of tea and gives me a massage sometimes if I'm feeling up for it.

Hey, be grateful that you've a partner that asks if they can do something, rather than say that you're not really hurting, it's all in your head, don't believe you (that's the worst ) or on & on....be thankful and let them. Hugs

I really think that I've stopped asking because nothing helps and I think he just got tired of asking or massaging my neck back and shoulders for hours at a time.

Mine doesn't ask anymore...if I need something I ask him. He gives me a hard about then he will do it.