Yes, we try to be all things to all people, but seriously, at the end of the day we need to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others. I definitely feel your pain with this! My husband is mostly understanding , but trying to be that positive person, perfect wife isn't realistic on bad days and fear kicks in when we feel we are being judged. Big hugs to you!

I am so sorry & can't possibly understand only empathise with what u are going through. I've been married for 26yrs we have been through so much s..t before we met & together since, I think comunication is an important factor 2 maintain a good marriage. Up until the end of last summer for 2yrs my hubby & I drifted apart & stopped communicating was a difficult time as my health problems got worse I felt like I had lost my rock during that time until September when I was finally diagnosed with fibro by a new brill doctor who told us that we needed to help each other through this be on the same page. Then my hubby started reading all fibro info I gave 2 him & we talked/sorted through our issues we now closer than ever before. Its not easy we just take one day at a time because in a marriage u both change over the years u are never the same 2 people u were at the beginning no one is as u get older so u both have 2 grow & adapt 2 each others needs. He helps & supports me as I do him work 2gether as a team he accepts & understands my limitations & knows that I always try & do what I can having a positive attitude is a must

i feel your pain & frustration , i have been blessed with someone who understands how fibro has made a huge impact on our lives & he has come to 95% of my doctors appointments with me so he trys to understand what is happening to me . Yes it has been hard on our relationship but it seems to make us stronger in life together .This journey we are on is not going to be easy but somehow through all our pain & struggles that we face it sure makes our love for each other stronger . i wish i could jump through the screen & give you both a huge hug to help you get through this ok love ,peace & happy smiles for you KIM

Oh my god - THIS! When you mention having to be positive for both of you ... Me too! I love my husband dearly, but me being so dependent on him and others has made me so much less attractive than when I met him and was an independent student taking on the world.

I see him excell at his job and it only makes me feel worse about my lack of a job. I told a friend earlier today, his over large ego and my deflated ego are not a good combination.

You are NOT alone. You are very much in good (although unhappy) company.

OMG. I just felt like I was reading my own story. You are not alone. I diagnosed myself with my Fibro, bi-polar,hypothyroidism, etc long before my doctors. I also have that insight. And yes even after 34 1/2 years of marriage it is still a struggle. My mood swings don't help and he has to deal with with two conditions so double whammy on the mood swings. We have done counselling and we really have to keep working on our marriage. He is finally coming around. He doesn't get the pain and exhaustion. Hell after all this time together he is just finally researching bi-polar after a nasty rapid cycling stint lately. My next struggle is getting him to learn about Fibro. One baby step at a time. Just keep working at it? Hugs