I think there are times in our lives when we need a professional to help us sort it out. Psycho therapy helps as it a grieving process to realize our lives will never be the same. We won't be able to ALL the things we used to take for granted. Everyone has some challenge to deal with. The key is getting where you can accept what is and stop beating yourself up for something that is not your fault.

As a athletic, active person I knew something was wrong with my body on a permanent basis when the same ache and pain keep coming back. The actual diagnosis knocked me for awhile. I believe it is really hard to have a name put to an ongoing problem. It means your life has changed and you are never going to be what you were. Take a look at the ways to work with the limitations not dwelling on them. Being accepting of self is the hardest thing to do for all of us in life period. Keep yourself open to the "new life" you are now leading and find the rhythms in that life. In order words, know your day. I know when I have my most stiffness (mornings) so I start with a hot shower to get going. I know if a storm is coming I will have pain so I take my meds accordingly. Paying attention to your daily patterns and act as you need to, e.g., hot shower, meds, sleep, etc. for optimum functioning.

I understand. I used to be so fit and active, but the fibro has taken that from me and I'm so out of shape now I get out of breath bending over to tie my dang shoes. I also say 'well I'm just a fat a** and I eat to much and I'm lazy" which isn't the truth, it's just easier to be down on myself for something controllable like how I eat or how active I am, than it is to accept that I have a real condition that causes real issues and it isn't an excuse.

Start with telling yourself that it is not your fault.. you are beautyful.. its oke .. accept that you are different.. let your true colors shine.. and get rid of people around you that makes you feel bad..😙😙😙

I stuggled with the same feelings for years. I was diagnosed 15 years ago and am finally really working on myself with acceptance and working on myself. I feel so lazy or so I think but now know that is not true!!!! we have simplified all in our lives so it is easier for me and my husband to deal with the necessary and to heck with the rest.