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Dumfries and Galloway, UK

I'm only young and i got diagnosed as a young teenager, I cant imagine myself having kids and putting the burden of my health onto them (but i know thats only the irrational emotional part ) i was on a play date with my friend and her child yesterday and today i can barely lift my arms theyre so sore and i only picked up the 1yo child once for a short period, what i'm asking is it it possible to be a mother with fibro and the disabling pain that simply carrying your child brings? :(

March 2, 2021
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Members openly discussed the deeply personal question of whether it's possible to be a mother with fibromyalgia, with many sharing that while... Read more

Members openly discussed the deeply personal question of whether it's possible to be a mother with fibromyalgia, with many sharing that while parenting with chronic pain is undeniably hard, their children became their reason to keep going and brought meaning they couldn't imagine living without. Several members described the guilt of not being able to do activities they once could, the physical toll of caring for young children, and the worry about potentially passing fibromyalgia to their kids, with many noting it does appear to run in families across multiple generations. A recurring theme was that this is an intensely individual decision, and while some found unexpected relief during pregnancy and breastfeeding, others emphasized the importance of having a strong support system and being realistic about the physical demands while honoring the deep emotional fulfillment children can bring.

A MyFibroTeam Member

I advocate a Quell device if you are in pain . Google

March 4, 2021
A MyFibroTeam Member

I wasnt diagnosed until after having my children. I do know my older two inherited my migraines. Little one is about the age the older two were when they had their first migraines.

March 7, 2021
A MyFibroTeam Member

My mother had it and I have just been diagnosed with it.

March 3, 2021
A MyFibroTeam Member

Do any of you feel fibro can be passed down to your children? Or have you heard of this?

March 3, 2021
A MyFibroTeam Member

I, without knowing it, started getting fibro when I was 19. My mom and sister both said when I became pregnant and had my son at 25 is when they noticed me getting sick.

I carry, and I am sure others, carry the guilty of not being able to do what we use to do or doing things with our families. It was hard to explain to my son why mom could not do this or that. Why mom had to go slow or just why mom just did not feel good. I tried the best I could but fibro doesn't care who you are, what your race is, age or gender. It will hit you like a ton of bricks.

As he grew up everytime he felt a slight pain or joint issue my mind would immediately go to fibro, wondering if I had passed this onto him.

Fast forward to about 5-10 years ago I was asked to babysit a friend's young child. The next day I could not move the next day. I was in total pain.

It sucks. It just sucks. We try to have a sense of normalicy of how we were before fibro hit but that is just now how it its anymore.

I am not sure how to answer you, it is one you have to do the pros and cons I would think if it is right for you and your family.

I was told to not have children due to my pain and illnesses so son was not in our future, he just happened to come along.

I am grateful for my young man who is much older now, I can't imagine now not having him.

March 2, 2021

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