I as a type A intense personality. I have found guided meditations from Youtube to be very helpful in relaxing me. Granted, you can't do them when you are out and about but I do them twice a day and they do help my body relax. Try deep breathing and doing 3 positive affirmations and do them slowly.

ABSOLUTELY; nail on the head,,, if i lay very still and focus on my muscles and my tense thoughts i can control it .... minimually,, but i know its my mind,, i suffered a great deal of loss for 2 solid years ,, my dog had to be put down then 3 months later my mother ,,, 3 months later my husband ,, 1 1/2 years later my father,, and i believe the PTSD from these events even now has me in knots ,, i have to mentally stop thinking stressful thoughts and really focus on relaxing ,, when i can do this i can actually feel the tension leaving ,, the second i start to think of something stressful ,, even as small as "oh i have to run to the store to get x" then boom ,, all knotted again,,

It's part of the fight or flight response.

Dont know if possible to get over it but i know i can never relax

I agree with this. I hate bright lights and am always looking around me while i am out