WOW i have done a ton of reading on this site today and feel awful that i was not a lot more supportive of my wife's illness i guess i did not realize how much this effected things in our relationship until i read it, and i seen a lot of topics that related to us. this is a terrible illness and am wondering why you do not see the support out there like you do for cancer,ms, or any of the other ones that have the walks,benefits, and support groups? i really only know 2 people that have/talk about this and it was my wife and her sister so that might be my reason for the lack of compassion of the topic so i would like to apologize to everyone here and hope tomorrow is a better day

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Personally, my pain alone can get me feeling very depressed just because I hurt so bad. Finding healthy ways to really manage the pain and a good dr who listens and helps was a major turning point in my health. It's important to manage the depression too. I had basically shut down until I got to a good doctor. I always continued to work even if it was less. My husband is the main provider so I know that does put a lot on him. When I do feel better for periods I work more to help more. Make sure you take care of yourself too along this journey.

Been a few weeks now and the one thing i can say is if you love some one with this illness never NEVER ignore it or think this is not real - l i am 48 and loved my wife since we were 15 and now she has left because i think someone else has shown more interest in her illness than me.SHOW THE ONE YOU ARE WITH LOVE !!!!!!!!!!

Anger is fears coat of armor. Make sure this is NOT due to meds. Going off or changing SSRI'S can cause anger for quite some time. Not sure if Savella is an SSRI, did she recently change an antidepressant??? Look into this for her if you are able. So sorry about your separation. Chronic disease is hard to deal with whether or not you're the patient...