That’s most likely why your fiancé isn’t being supportive. Sounds terrible but there’s so much truth to it. My husband is always complaining about the fact we dont have sex enough. He would want it every day multiple times a day but im not a rabbit and since that’s not going to happen, he requested a minimum of 3 x per week. That doesn’t sound unreasonable but Im so exhausted trying to manage my body and anxiety that sex is like an island I cant even see with a telescope. FMS has a way of stealing your joy . But! When my husband does get sex, he is always super nice to me and more compassionate. I feel bad. If that’s what it took to fix his inability to be compassionate and not so resentful, you’d think I’d make sure to do it every day but I can barely get through a day without crying bc of the emotional toll this has taken on me so I just dont think about being physical with anyone. I love hugs and could use them and give them all day but a hug to my husband usually makes him want other things so I dont even feel like I can be cuddled by my husband bc he always wants to take it to the “next level,” and I just need some emotional support right now. As silly as it sounds, i was so close to my dad. Even as a 28 year old, I’d sit on his lap ang get the biggest hug from him then I could call him and we’d talk for hours. I always felt so secure after our calls or a hug from him. He would have been so compassionate about all of this. I honestly have no one, really. Other than my FMS friends on this site. Sorry its been so hard for you. And for others. Im still in the grieving stage of trying to understand the new me
Lol. Yup. I went from having a very healthy drive to none.
Omg no sex drive definitely! I didn’t know if it was my age, 56, or fibro but I have no interest whatsoever!! I know a lot of times it’s because of the pain I’m in or the pain I’ll be in when we finish so I hate the thought of it! Plus the shower after is excruciating which is another turn off. And last but not least, I am so dry, it hurts during and after which I know can be fixed with gel but I’m afraid if I get it, my husband will think I want it more! Ugh!!!
Ha ha. Yes. Who wants to have sex when your body feels so shitty all the time and you feel like you’re going bat shit crazy with all the weird symptoms. Sex is the farthest thing from my mind. I would just like control over my own body.