I’m so very sorry for your loss hun. Everyone god through grief differently so what may be right for one may not be so for another. That said I’m Bipolar so I have extreme highs and lows even with compliance medication, and that always feeds into my physical condition. I can never know your pain, but I can tell you what I do. I try to ride out the wave the best I can I journal a lot, even if it’s just free writing, and makes no sense. I just get it out the best I can. It’s best for me to feel whatever it is I’m feeling, no matter if it’s mania, or sevier depression, because if I lock myself down, it gets really bad for me both physically and mentally. Oh and I take lots and lots of showers. Wether I fell up to it or no. Something about the water makes me feel safe nurtured, and warm. I also like to lay on the heating vents with the blanket over my head and feel the hot air blow on my face. It soothes me. Meditation is helpful as well. I do hope you are able to find some comfort and peace threw this trying time my friend. *Gentle hugs* be well .

Sorry to hear your news Laura. Any stress and upset exacerbates fibromyalgia and can bring on a flare which I’m sure you know is unbearable pain. See your Gp and they may top up your pain meds having said that the grief is perfectly normal so you may have to ride it out until your flare subsides. I really feel for you. I was just the same when my mum passed away. It will get better though Laura. Gentle hugs x

It is so very difficult to be in chronic physical pain and have the added grief to deal with. Just try and release your sadness as much as you can when ever you need to, spend time with those you love, accept how you feel at the moment knowing that as the days go by you will get relief. Things will get better. Don't fight the grief though, it will manifest itself in worsening of your fibro. You are not alone dear one! Big hugs.....

Check local churches to see if they offer Grief Share. My church is where I live and it helped me when my Mom died. Try to rest and take care of yourself. I am sorry for your loss.

You might want to try a Bereavement Support Group or talk with a Cognitive behavioral Therapist. These helped me quite lot -- especially talking out feelings. You will be surprised how healing the letting that out of all your feelings in a non threatening setting can be...