How is he great? I know I will probably get bashed for saying so but his behavior as you have described it sounds quite abusive. I guess you need to decide if the good out weighs the bad. Perhaps your Dr could talk to him.
How long were you together before you got sick? Maybe you can remind him that you used to do morre physical things when you were healthy and still would if you could. If he loves you he will put your well being and happiness ahead of everything and not keep score of who is doing the most. ....of course that goes both ways for all couples. I think sucessful couples need to learn to have faith in each other and presume the other is doing the best that they can .if he values your relationship, he needs to learn to trust and accept you when you tell him you are doing your best. That is all anyone can expect..:-) 9p7 KO Imoo((9(

Sounds like it’s time to see a professional therapist to help sort out the real issues, learn how to communicate much more effectively and identify the things you loved about each other when you first met.

I am so sorry to hear that you are encountering obstacles in your relationship. It may be worth getting couples counseling. If he isnt willing, you could always go yourself to at least receive guidance from an outside and licensed party. A lot of psychologists - if trained properly - are well trained in fostering communication skills. It can really save a relationship when people learn how to simply rephrase a question. It’s amazing! I offer this advice as a third year clinical psych doctoral student who really does believe in the benefits of therapy, so I am biased. However, it really does sound like, despite your upset, you still love him very much and want to work things out. Best of luck.

I have had this issue with my hubby as well. Tho to be fair, he does deal with major body pains as well. Regardless, he used to dismiss my pain quite often and say I needed to toughen up. A few things have helped him understand how severe it is.

1. He sees me try to do things and collapse in pain and exhaustion where I can't even move more often now.
2. I go for trigger point injections and get 24 pokes once a month.
3. My family doctor demanded that I bring in disability forms for him to fill out. (this one helped the most)
4. Most gifts I ask for are things that help with pain.. ie/ massage chairs, tens machines, massage devices and massages from therapists.

He still tries to encourage me to do what I can.. but the fighting and dismissal of my pain have pretty much stopped. We fought over the disability forms and won't let me go on it and now works like crazy to make sure I don't. I think once he knew the dr. was adamant about it.. he really understood how bad it is.

I hope it gets better for you!

Hi.next time you visit the Drs ask your husband to attend with you,or ask him to research fibro on the internet.with some people its seeing is believing if he is reading about other going through what you are he may get a better understanding of this awful condition..Goodluck.👍👍