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How To Help A Friend With Chronic Illness

A MyFibroTeam Member asked a question 💭
Bendigo, AU

There are many ways to reach out to help, and of course the needs will change for each person. Big things like helping clean the house or cooking meals can help, but often it’s the little things that are the best, like opening the door for them, or remembering not to wear perfume. Here’s a list of a few things that can help (with thanks to many other websites I‘ve read similar lists on over the years):

~ Don’t be afraid to hug her gently, but please no bear hugs
~ Understand that just because… read more

October 29, 2017
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Members warmly embraced a comprehensive list of thoughtful ways to support friends with chronic illness, with many expressing gratitude for... Read more

Members warmly embraced a comprehensive list of thoughtful ways to support friends with chronic illness, with many expressing gratitude for suggestions they plan to share with family, coworkers, and social media connections to help others better understand invisible conditions like fibromyalgia. Several members added their own insights, including watching for signs of increased isolation or depression, asking specifically how to pray for someone that day to gauge their struggles, and noting that workplace dress codes already prohibit strong scents due to patient sensitivities. A recurring theme was the relief of having concrete language to explain needs without feeling needy or petty, the frustration of hearing "but you don't look sick," and the deep appreciation for practical tips like gentle touch, offering rides, avoiding perfume, and recognizing that showing up doesn't mean feeling well.

A MyFibroTeam Member

some need a sledge hammer to get it. you could give this list to them and they might read it. or not.
believe or not. the lead a horse to water thing. oh how I wish
but very good list for those who choose to get it and believe

October 31, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

Of course you can use it. That is why I posted it. I felt we all have a hard time getting our friends and loved ones to understand, so I hoped this would make it easier for you. Glad I could help you.
Hugs.💖 Heather

October 31, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

@A MyFibroTeam Member You have a great list thought out well & written from your heart. Some of them might be from what you've read but your special touch on each one listed, has your caring, supportive & wonderful character. You have made each line so special ! Love it. Thank you.
😏😏😏😏💕💕💕💕💟💟💟💟💞💞💞💞

October 29, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

Thank you! I hope it was ok to copy and paste thing on my facebook page? I know it's long but I hope it helps someone out there! I can't put your name though. I'm feeling more pain tonight, like a Monday. Hope you are ok?

November 3, 2017
A MyFibroTeam Member

I'm sharing this with my friend who's father has chronic pain issues. When I told her the spoon story she sort of understood him better.

November 16, 2017

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