Often times, it’s simply that our spouses feel that they’ve lost us or our lives together. It’s confusing and painful for them, especially, if like in my marriage, I was the one to give attention, affection, be silly, etc. They miss who we were, just as much, or more, than we do.

Dont make yourself feel worse daily if you let your withdrawn’s husbands emotions affect you.

Write him a letter about how you feel and encourage him to do the same. Ask that he give you hugs and affection so that you, both, can feel better.

Look for new ways to be intimate. Listen to soft music together, it’ll reduce stress and pain.
Read a book together. Ask your husband for a light massage. Make him feel special and missed. Have a bath ready for when he arrives from work. Light candles.

Seek counseling. For you, first, then, see if he’d like to join in couples therapy, and/or therapy for himself.

Behavior Modification Therapy is a wonderful way to feel better about yourself, Fibro, etc.
It teaches us how to release pain in a gentle way. How to cope, how to breath into our pain, how to connect or reconnect to our spirituality.

We often don’t recognize that we endlessly repeat our pain, sadness, loneliness to our loved ones who feel helpless and even exasperated after a long day.

I used to cry miserably as I contorted my body with pain spilling out every emotion about my husband, etc.

My new therapist would sit calmly, then ask “are you done?”

It took a few visits for me to see that all the crying and complaining wasn’t helping me.

I recognized that I needed to use my valuable therapy time to learn coping methods for physical, mental, and emotional balance. I began to dress up for my appointments.
I sat, relaxed, composed, and spoke with intelligence and bravery.

The more one complains, the less others care to hear.

Use your precious time, and life, as wisely, and peacefully as you can.
Namaste,
LET

My first husband left me after 32yrs He got fed up with me being a burden & ofcourse I could no longer keep up with the physical side of our relationship...I felt useless, ugly & unwanted Then I met my present husband....Hes 9yrs younger than me BUT he copes better with me & the FM....Ive noticed though that he worries he will hurt me when we hug or cuddle So now I make sure I go to him every day for a hug or cuddle....He says I'm grumpy most days & snappy too I ofcourse don't notice He just let's me get on with it lol Its very difficult for our partners to have to stand by & watch helplessly while the one they love deteriorates daily, weekly, monthly & yearly...Hes always researching new alternatives that may help me But most of it is in the USA & not available in the UK Medically we are so far behind 😕 I hope with some knowledge & adjustment that you can still have intimate moments & sharing togetherness Tbats so important But you may find it's you that has to initiate it...after all how wiĺl your hubby know when you want a hug or not? ☺

I think that the only thing to do is educate your husband to your condition,my husband left me after 25years he didn't believe how sick I felt,but try to work it out divorce is ugly,sometimes for the best but try to give it your all ,as I did so you have no regrets,hugs and prayers 💗💗💗

i fortunately have me a gem of a man. i educated him early on how this does and will effect me. i try very very hard not to let it get me down but it does. when it does i just tell him i have to get in the bed he tells me to go. he shares the housework with me if need be. he does cook and do laundry if necessary. the only thing he cant do is sit in the hosital with me. it upsets him so much. so if i have to stay, he doesnt but i do have constant phone contact. that keeps him going

It's hard seeing all the great things that happen in the US