I have the same problem, the free and clear all and tide are great.
Sensitive to all smells! bleach is really bad!
My allergist said something similar today, no candles too!
I think most OxyClean has a lot of fragrance. I think I've seen a "free and clear" version in stores, it might be better. I only use it for spot cleaning/presoaking, and then I wash my clothes in my gentle soap.
I have to use very gentle laundry soap or I get a rash, and a lot of soaps and cleansers irritate my skin and/or my sinuses. There are some great directions online about making your own gentle laundry soap and other household cleaners, and it's usually cheaper! I use lot of Dr Bronners Castille soap and white vinegar.
I am sensitive to quite a few items. Like any hair products, soap (only use Ivory), perfume, deodorant, lotion and other items. I never connected it to fibro but I guess it could be.