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Olathe, KS

Do you ever feel like a guilty wife because you can't do anything and you don't know how to fix it

April 25, 2016
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Members connected over feelings of guilt about not being able to contribute the way they once did due to chronic illness, with many sharing... Read more

Members connected over feelings of guilt about not being able to contribute the way they once did due to chronic illness, with many sharing how their partners have been supportive and understanding through the transition. Several members offered reassurance that being present and taking care of yourself matters more than productivity, with practical suggestions like finding small hobbies that bring purpose, focusing on quality time with family, and remembering past contributions during healthier years. A recurring theme was the importance of not letting illness define your worth, giving yourself grace on difficult days, and recognizing that a good partnership means both people support each other through changing circumstances.

A MyFibroTeam Member

I don't feel "guilty" but do feel sometimes like I am not pulling my weight & contributing like I did before fibro. I feel worthless sometimes because I am only bringing in $12 an hour on long term disability from my job (which I am grateful for) not the $25 an hour plus overtime & annual bonus I was bringing in when working but my hubby reassures me its OK, that I do contribute. I now know that my health & spending time with my family are far more important than working my butt off & being stressed out to the point of crying every night! I wish I would have walked out before I let the job take me down! I paid the ultimate price for sure....my health! A friend told me the corporate world will chew you up & spit you out without a second thought. How very true that is!!! ๐Ÿ˜ž Don't feel "guilty". It is not anything you can control, you can only do what you can & it is time to take care of you now! ๐Ÿ˜Š

April 26, 2016 (edited)
A MyFibroTeam Member

A good wife does not start the day your sick ...it is all the years you have been well and gave 100% no matter what ...And if your not well that is when a great husband picks up the load and appreciates who you are and helps you along the way, to recover with Love....
Never feel guilty for what we can not control... if the picture was reversed ... how would yu make your husband and children feel ?
XXOO
Take care of you hun!!!

April 26, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

I have been alone most of my life I raised my kids alone. So I don't know what it's like to have a partner that will help I tried marriage twice and it just didn't work maybe I expect too much like being able to trust each other but I digress I'm glad we are all finding ways to survive With these horrible diseases that we have and that we are not letting the disease Define who we are. It is important that we keep our identity and not let the desease define us. I hope everyone will have to a great day. God bless

May 2, 2016
A MyFibroTeam Member

You see your very special ... even though we feel down sometime but we are very important XXOO

April 26, 2016 (edited)
A MyFibroTeam Member

You are right! I have 4 children: ages 30, 28, 25 & 13 & I'm sure they feel the same way your daughter does. Thank you xo

April 26, 2016

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