I am 60 years young and I love sex. It is a vital part of being together with your significant other. Having said that, I have been abstaining from sex for the past 10 years. My husband is impotent and is unable to have sex. I have thought of having an affair but I just can't. I miss it all the time. Medications can alter your sex drive plus with the fibromyalgia, it can be painful. Talk to your partner and let him understand how you feel. While it may not help with your sex drive, it can help him understand your disease process. There are doctors that can help with the problem as there are medication to treat this. Hope this helps you. Gentle Hugs always, Darla

I am 55, love sex. BUT if I have missed any of my meds, the pain is too intense to even think of letting anyone touch me. Our best time of day is noonish. But it still leaves me with a bit of pain, mostly shoulders, ribs. Probably follow it up with a heating pad, ice packs, warm bath in Epsom salts.

Hi, yes unfortunately my wife had gone off sex sex some three years ago or more, due to HS and Fibromialgia. It is very frustrating, i do understand that fibro makes her very painful and she tells me that it is too sore.
I dont know what the answer is, i love her to bits, she tells me that if i want it i can look elsewhere... I find that a strange concept, we have been married for 9 years.

There are various things that would help your issue, try changing the routine to something spontaneous, scrap what you're already doing and find different means to keep things going. If you want to have that future then you need to be dedicated regardless of your health, do it at times when you have the most energy, find other positions that are comfortable for you and exciting for you both. Try adding more fruit to your diet, caffeine and sugar, you can get those lucozade chew tablets which are good energy. But also if you don't like oral and this isn't weird but there are toys for men too which should sate that need for him and need for you to please him.

I'm 23 when I first met my partner we had sex almost every day and more then once some days and would stay in bed all day but now I hate my weight and even when my partner is wanting to I just feel blah and mostly fake my enthusiasm and act like it's exactly what I want, then when we haven't for a while I will try and get him interest vis in worried he won't be happy if we don't.. So frustrating...