Think I’m ready to open up for dating! In the dating process has ur chronic pain “scared” potential significant others off? What’re your guys’ experiences??
You cant help having an illness. The right person will accept all of you. If they dont then they are not the right person 🤗 x
@A MyFibroTeam Member that’s lovely. Love to hear it. I’m worried I may not fulfill certain needs all the time, y’know? With energy & sometimes having to cancel things…lots to think about
I finally started seeing someone about 2 months ago (I haven't even tried finding a relationship since being diagnosed with fibromyalgia 5 years ago since I wanted to focus on myself for a while) and so far she has been super understanding about it. She has also had chronic pain before (back pain from an injury in the military) and can relate to feeling achy in the cold, so I think it actually helped us connect more. Obviously it's still a super young relationship but it's giving me hope that I can still have a love life with chronic pain. I think it could also be good at weeding people out who don't truly care about or respect you as a person if they can't understand or empathize with your pain. I think any good partner would at least try.
@A MyFibroTeam Member I’m so sorry to hear that!! It doesn’t sound like you two are in the same book, yet alone the same page. If he doesn’t at least try to understand it’s a red flag for me, because not understanding while not trying to & not understanding while being willing to learn are two different things. One requires caring enough.
& I feel you 100 percent on the energy it takes to even date. It was one of the reasons I stopped interacting with a potential someone last year…the attention & time he needed, I couldn’t give while trying to figure me out. & I hated having to cancel plans due to pain. It’s all just frustrating, so I understand completely.
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@A MyFibroTeam Member I loved every bit of this 😍😍😍😍😍 thank you, that was really inspiring and beautifully said. That first part is spot on, too. I agree with everything. I actually pushed a potential man away due to my own insecurities and self doubts with this, despite him being very open and supportive. You live and learn, though. Hope all is well with you 🤍🤍🤍🤍