Sometimes, a person has to walk your pain to really understand where you are coming from!!

My marriage was tested really hard when I first got diagnosed. In my situation, we both didn’t understand this disease. I knew the pain was real but to make him understand, it took us maybe 2 years until he realized I’m not making it up since there isn’t any physical damage that can be seen. I think for me, what really helped is that I stopped complaining to him and just kept going to different specialists and finding things that would help me on my own. He needed some kind of tangible proof, and so the list of medications, therapy, and doctors I have are things that cannot be made up. Its like learning about Fibromyalgia for myself and he was quietly observing on the side. Now, I see I lot of support from him. But I still try to limit my complaints so he knows I’m not dependent on him. We also saw marriage counseling in between, but its bec we had other issues to resolve. Counseling might be something to use if you think communication is the problem.

It was harder for my husband to understand my pain when we were younger. Now that he has osteoarthritis in his neck, back and knees he is much more understanding.

The Mr. Sir acts like he is the only one allowed to be sick or in pain. He acts like everybody is a hypochondriac.

My husband doesn’t understand. He says don’t you want to have a day that you done have pain. What! like really😱