Wow! So incredibly impressed with some of your SO’s on here!!! I would love a spouse who would be empathetic and gentle and say kind things and be understanding. Mine is not. He acknowledges he is not and is actively in therapy to work on his issues. He acknowledges he would be lost without me and loves me but he never really follows through with changing his apathetic behavior. He does not go to my doctors appointments bc he “cant miss work,” and he always says, “well, I went to Mayo with you and missed a whole week of work.” He even said at Mayo how sorry he was for how he had treated me but right back to his old ways after that. I think even though the doctors told him fibro is chronic, he thought I’d be cured at some point. It has been a hard struggle. He is out of town for work right now and wont be home until the 23rd. I took vacation to rest from work starting next week and he decided to take a job and leave me with the kids. And im sick. He did laundry before he left and asked if I needed help with anything else. I dont want to have to give instructions on what I need help with. And i dont want another letter admitting and apologizing for the same bad behavior with no changes in the end.

My husband can not possibly understand completely, no one could. But he is so supportive today he took me hospital, sat with me for 3 hours then took me to lunch then dropped me home, went and did a job of mine as I was to achy and stressed, went shopping, then cooked tea. Now he has started with the cold I had at the week end. I feel so guilty but I do try not to put on him. He did forget the cat food so no one is perfect 😂😿

My boyfriend (who may as well be my husband) doesn’t get what I go through but he does his best to understand. He is so supportive and helps me in any way that he can. He is always worried that I am pushing myself and doing more than I can handle. If I am in pain or cant do something he just does it for me no questions asked. He will draw baths for me at 3am when I cant sleep and hurt really bad, he carries me when I cant physically walk. I am so beyond lucky to have him. He is such a blessing in my life.

THANKYOU EVERYONE FOR THE HUGS

You are not alone.i go through the same thing almost every second day , with me I shout back .