I mean do I need to explain more? Lol it's almost never on my mind and I feel awful. How how you feel "ready" when you're always in pain? But how can you just leave your significant other hanging too? It's hard. Any tips? Anything that you've tried?
I have the exact same problem, my sex drive is vertually none exsistant! I feel so bad on my husband, we only got married in October and as newlyweds I think it's the norm to be wanting and having sex but like you I'm just not! Luckily my husband fully understands which I guess I'm lucky about, although I do feel bad!
@A MyFibroTeam Member I totally understand! And I don't want to get too personal but I've been abused both physically and mentally since I was about 14. It put a huge hole in me for a long time, and now that I'm older and in a healthy relationship I have some battles I need to take care of and then after getting sick so much and now being diagnosed I hate that sex is the one thing I'm fighting the most in my relationship about. It's hard. It feels like a lot of pressure on you because you don't want to leave your partner hanging but you can't force yourself to do it either because that's not right. It's a argument in a lot of relationships I'm sure
@A MyFibroTeam Member Mine is pretty understanding but once it starts pushing close to almost 2 weeks he gets a little moody. I mean I can understand his side too but it sucks because I feel bad about it.
This is a HUGE problem in my marriage!! I have absolutely no interest in having sex and my husband just doesn't understand. He feels that if I'm not interested in sex that I don't love him anymore and he doesn't get that when you are in pain 24/7, sex is the last thing on my mind. When I do give in, I get absolutely no pleasure and am in so much more pain after that I resent giving in. This has been going on for years as I've had Fibro for so long and with all the other battles in a marriage, I'm so ready to call it quits! I have put up with mental abuse for years and of course that has gotten worse since I've been sick and some days I just want to cry. I've also explained to him that being mean to me just makes me that much less interested in sex but of course he doesn't think he does anything wrong. We will be having our 35th anniversary in Sept and I'm not sure we will make it til then! I'm 55 and I really don't think sex should be your major interest at this point in our marriage but he strongly disagrees! Sorry to go on so long but as I said, this is a big problem and has been for over ten years cause I've had Fibro for probably that long after three failed surgeries which kept me out of commission for sex a few years before that. Anyway, good luck to you and hopefully either my marriage gets better finally or I get the strength to walk out on mine!!!