Yes, the pain makes it hard to climax so your lover thinks that either they're not good enough or that you're cheating on them. In truth I wasn't in the mood anyway and now the stress is increased from your fighting

Of course it effects your labido , when someone is in constant pain or is tired and fatigued I think the last thing on your mind is having sex or making love...then you have the meds .. they most certainly, particularly the pain killers ,opiates and the neuro transmitter blockers will dumb down any feelings ..most of these drugs have the ability to cause sexual dysfunction ..so if they do the job they are supposed to ,most people should be numb .. So trying to regain or maintain a healthy sexual relationship is always going to be differcult ..
Speaking as a woman or for myself ..I know that in the past when I have been constantly fighting the battle of fatigue and pain I would rather have a nice hot bubble bath and get into my comfy pj's ( which are usually the least sexy thing I could wear) and then have a cup of hot chocolate and curl up in my bed...Remember how much self esteem have we all lost with fibromyalgia ! We need to feel good about ourselves to be comfortable about sex.
The mental energy involved in a woman preparing for love making I think is sometimes a longer process than a man but maybe I am wrong ,as I am not a man who has FB ...then there is the possibility that we are going to suffer for it the following day , if not for days...which is a mood killer in itself..
Then there is the possibility that you're just with the wrong person hahahahaha .😆. ( just kidding ) without doubt tho, thru my personal experience it's about closeness and understanding...in the past when I have lost my drive it was always down to my partner to remind me that it was still possible that despite my FB That I was still sexy, was still attractive and wanted ..
Then it is still possible to have an enjoyable sex life, albeit not swinging from any chandeliers hahahaha but you adapt .. And nothing is impossible when love is involved .

Hahaha sorry to laugh @A MyFibroTeam Member but even if you don't know it now, that's probably the best thing to happen to you... It certainly was with me 😜 My hubby did the same as soon as I got sick ..but hey it's the best damn thing that has ever happened to me. I would never have done that to him if the roles where reversed . But hey ho I got rid of a bad one.. My sex life became no existent and I thought I would never had a normal sex life again ..I even blamed myself then I had a new boyfriend and wow sex didn't hurt it was a matter of consideration ..the man made me feel like I was the most beautiful sexy woman alive ...and although i have many aches and pains when you're with someone good the pain can even disappear albeit temporarily.. But I didn't realise what I had been missing hahahaha X

Thank you all for your stories and information this helps me alot with what me and my wife are going through. And ladies you helped me alot to understand her situation. Thanks and love to you all.

Hmmm yea no real sex drive I look at its going to a full time job and well I already have one of those. A few years ago I left a cheating husband not cuz lack of sex he thought his hs sweetheart would want him back...I walked out and started all over and she filed stalking charges on him...that to me was satisfying as he came crawling back and I said uh uh I don't want you now either. But I met a guy I knew 23 yrs ago both out of relationship with cheating partners and he just moved back to the state I was in and well we just hung out and well I would over never thought (tell me 20 yrs ago we would be together I would of laughed in your face) but here we are 2 1/2 yrs later he proposed and has dealt with the fibro and said I love for who you are not what I can get...we have date nights (always on one of my days off) sometimes just dinner sometimes just rent a movie and pizza but best thing is I feel like I am in hs all over being held and making out is something and if he gets lucky so be it but he always wants to make sure I am ok and communication