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How Do You Deal With People Doubting Your Disability
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Someone close to me who has been with me to Dr appointments and seen how much I struggle and witnessed my limitations recently told my teenage daughter that I am not disabled and that I am capable of doing everything myself without any help. Besides fibro I also have issues from a car accident; my body doesn't respond how it is supposed to and I still go to physical therapy; I'm not supposed to lift more than 30 lbs, I can't bend and stoop very much, I have an inverted tailbone as well as… read more

posted September 17, 2018
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A MyFibroTeam Member

I agree your friend has overstepped her boundaries!! I would honestly have a talk with her and ask her to read up on fibro! Although some articles may be very misleading so I would look up a site that has the proper info and how debilitating this illness is and have her read that actual article or even a few good ones! What goes on at home in your day to day home life is none of her business and she has no right to have stuck in her two cents worth to your daughter without knowing the true facts of fibro!! Shame on her!!!

posted September 18, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

OH MY WORD! You ask very little of her and she should be willing to help. Whoever said that would only be able to live in your body for a minute before begging to get out. I'm sorry they don't understand.I also have a handicap parking sticker as I can't walk far and need someone to bring my groceries in for me. I ask my son to do stuff too... take garbage out, empty the dishwasher and keep his room and bathroom clean - and bring my groceries in. He looks at me and thinks I'm fine. What we have is an invisible illness so it's vary hard for people to believe we have limitations. Hang in there and God Bless.

posted September 17, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

Doesn't matter what other people think.Dont explain except 2 loved ones. This is ure cross to bear

posted September 17, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

I am so sorry to hear you are going through so much :( I honestly do not believe that the person doubting your disability is a real friend. While suffering from an invisible illness causes those around us to question the validity of our condition, a real friend would try to understand. Loved ones should always do their best to educate themselves; due to your friends lack of research, this friend has crossed the line. Involving your teenage daughter with toxic opinions is innapropriate. Please avoid negative people, and realize that you aren’t the problem. Your doing the best you can with the cards you have been dealt. Your daughter is simply helping with tasks, which is normal. If you like you could always give her a little insentive to show your appreciation. Stay strong, and realize that you do the best you can, no matter what anyone else says. Sending lots of love and gentle hugs!

posted September 17, 2018
A MyFibroTeam Member

So, essentially, this person is calling you a liar, abuser and lazy. I wouldn't have any patience for a person like that. When I was a teen I helped my mother do lots of things, and she wasn't sick. I have 4 brothers that did the same. We washed, cleaned, cooked and kept our rooms clean. I didn't resent anything about it and we all learned how to keep house and cook.

posted September 17, 2018

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