I use to adore hugs and snuggling with my husband or even receiving hugs from friends. Now I dread physical contact because of pain and being uncomfortable all the time. How do you cope with daily with physical touch? How can I help my husband understand that I adore him but I physically cannot bear the pain at times.
My husband can tell when I am having a bad day or a couple bad days. Knows when to offer a message or just leave me Alone. So when my pain level is about a 4 or lower I devote as much of my self as I can. Lol. It works for us
I had the same thing happen to me. It's called alodynia and is a real condition.
The best thing my Dr. Did to help me was to give me an anxiety pill with a muscle relaxant in it to take at night. I could finally relax my neck enough to get a good sleep.
I also got proper fitting pillows from Sleep Country. They will help fill the space properly between your neck and shoulder. I don't work for Sleep Country but the best support for my neck helped a lot. I don't use any other pillows. I travel with them.lol
I've had Fibro for 34 years.
Foods like hot chocolate, dark chocolate, and any other foods with magnesium also help because they are natural muscle relaxants.
Epsom salts also have magnesium in them.
So, if I wake up really stiff and sore, I slowly stretch warm muscles before I get out of bed.Then I fill the tub with warm,not hot water and at least 2 cups of Epsom salts. Then I have hot chocolate.
And a protein powder drink with milk to give me energy.
I try to eat fish and chicken more than red meat, as to much red meat seems to set off pain flares.
I tell people what I have found to keep the pain down in my system. I do take pain killer when I have to also.
Short walks where there are benches in case you need to rest, are important too.
Take Care on your Journey.
I am a man, being sensitive to touch, is a process to let your family and everybody you love know understand the PROBLEM. But it is only part of the solution, because i think education and information to understand that we are not Allians is a process to let them understand what we are going through every day.
I wish I had the answer, I know my son and daughter have been saddened many times because I have to repeatedly ask them to move over and don't lean on me. A 30 lb kid feels like 300lbs when you have a flare.
maybe im wierd but the warmth from my husbands arms and a bit of pressure where he hugs feels really good to me