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Look…I'm about to be real blunt here...I'm single and have also had a very hard time dating a man or even going out. My many, MANY years of experience in trying to keep a job and trying to date with Fibro has not been successful. Most men in general do not want to "care give" and if they do...by year two, they start to get resentful and start looking elsewhere. Trying to date is just too exhausting. Shaving my legs and washing my hair or even putting on make up causes more debilitating pain… read more
Thanks @A MyFibroTeam Member, I'm rooting for you too ! :) I really appreciate your note of empathy and support. Really,...I guess I'm also rooting for everyone that is single with Fibro and trying to keep a job and support themselves financially, physically and emotionally. I've lost a lot of friends and family that have chosen NOT to try to understand Fibro or me... or just plain decided to isolate themselves from me. If I'm not HAPPY HOLLY all the time with them then....they just decide to spend their time with someone else. To keep a job I have to put on an OSCAR winning performance ALL day (8-10) hours a day and then after I get home...I'm then supposed to "put on" another OSCAR winning performance for family, friends and potential men/lovers?? I don't think so...too exhausted to "be on" all the time. And then when I try to be myself and speak my truth..then they "gotta go" pretty hurtful when I have pushed through the pain all these years to HEAR THEM or BE THERE FOR THEM while they're going through their divorces, death of loved ones, broken relationships, birth of children, their kid's birthday parties, needing a ride to the airport etc. But now when I need THEM...."gotta go" they tell me. When you have to LET GO of these relationships in your life...sometimes it leaves you with no one, it's so hard. Trying to stay positive and hopeful and use my alone time to strengthen my relationship with God and myself. Can't keep pushing through the pain to salvage or "hold on" to any strands of toxic relationships for the sake of having ANYONE in my life. May all who are reading this right now and are struggling like me find hope and healing soon. God bless us all with empathetic people in our paths to help and heal. I'm rooting for us all. :)
You should keep trying. The right guy will not be resentful. and itwill take your mind off yourself for a while. Laughter and touch helps your body a lot. And I have found my long term guy eases my pain after we have had sex. Yes it takes more work and creativity sometimes oooh but after the endorphins relax my muscles and help with the pain. You must also realize that we should not isolate ourselves. Invite friends over who understand let them bring a dish over and you cn provide drinks. Yes it is not like it was before nothing ever is. Just don't give up on yourself. I am rooting for you
@A MyFibroTeam Member I literally feel your pain...physically and emotionally. Often feels like there’s no longer 2-way streets when it comes to others being willing to get to know your illness(es) and understand they are a part of us, but they DO NOT define us!! Super frustrating, but I trust there is a plan for this single, middle-aged momma! Lol.
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