Hi Daniel, I have a question for you. Please reflect on this. If someone on this site, or a friend or loved one has a chronic illness or is going through hard times do you judge them or do you feel empathy for them? Do you think they should feel guilty for being ill and should punish themselves and emotionally flog themselves all day and night in addition to being sick? Well, my friend thats what you are doing to yourself. Please find a compassionate and competent therapist to help you find the tools to help you love yourself once again. I am also questioning if your medication can be making your depression worse. Please go for a second or third opinion. Not every antidepressant works for everyone. I am a social worker and I can tell you that you lost a sense of compassion and forgiveness towards yourself my brother. You deserve to treat yourself with the love and kindness that you treat others with! Trust me.... I know. Stop beating yourself over the head and self love my friend. You are as significant as anyone else and are enough. Peace & love. Deb

Hi Daniel, please please please do not feel guilty about what you can not do, it is a complete waste of your precious time. Like Honor has said you have to accept that you can no longer do what you once could, We all feel down about that one, and the only way to have any sort of life is to live life one day at a time learn what you can do and what you enjoy doing and forget the rest. I am lucky in the resepct that i work with my husband and daughter so on bad days where i would once get annoyed i had to learn to stop when my body told me to. So now on really bad days when i have to take to my bed i do just that. On not so bad days i do what i can and on the occasional and i do mean occasional really good days i do the things i want to do.Once you can do that it does get easier pace yourself my motto is i do what i can when i can and it works for me ( IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME )I still get told off by the family for doing things they think i should not be doing but hay ho thats life. As regards the suicidal thoughts i also agree with Honor please see your gp let go of the guilt and you will be happier i am sure. Guilt is like regrets what will it change a big fat nothing. So live love and be happy and remember NO GUILT sending love and hugs xxxxx

Hi, I am so sorry because I am in the same boat. Just released from the hospital for a suicide attempt because I can't stand the pain or the people I love not caring. I just finished my business degree and will most likely need a work at home job. I not only feel guilty, but angry that this is my life today. I have RSD as well, the pain is unbearable. But suicide isn't the answer. I hope this helps.

Hi Daniel,
I understand just what you're feeling. I too am no longer working and feel guilty about it all the time. I'm nowhere near as ill as most people on here and I find myself looking for jobs almost daily. But at each one there are things I can't physically or mentally do. The ones I think I could manage I'm not qualified for. My confidence is at rock bottom.
Then I think what employer would even consider someone like me?

I'm living in hope that I get awarded the PIP so that I can do a part time college course that will give me the quals/ skills to start working again eventually.

So as to the guilt? Yes I have it too but we also don't have much of a life. I know I'd swap back to full time work rather than this in the blink of an eye.

Hugs 💞

Hi Daniel , reading all these stories of what this terrible disease has caused it's so so sad , I'm too in the same boat I can't work , I have no energy , I suffer depression and on a bad day I too have suicidal thoughts but I look at my kids and husband and realise that's not the answer the answer is as bad and as guilty as this makes you feel if your body is telling you no then rest as hard and saddening it is this is what it comes down to I hope it helps 😊